This is a wonderful little post I saw through me and my sister's zumba class blog. Ok, so I told you at some point that we love to take zumba classes and I try to follow their blog. They often come with some very good posts and I decided that this had to be shared and got the permission to do so.
I saw this and I sent it to my sister that could really relate which led to us having a mission: "be nicer to ourselves" and I think that is a pretty sweet mission:
Not trying to be overly dramatic or sentimental here..but... really do read this, it WILL do you some good!
This is written by Margrét Leifsdóttir which is a health instructor and an architect but she occasionally writes for them.
Are we enough?
This isn't good enough job...
You suck at this...
You are not smart enough...
You are not exercising enough...
You aren't good enough...
You aren't enough..
When I read these sentences I think :gees, I wouldn't want anyone to talk to me like this".
Nobody says things like these to me, however I really relate and I find them familiar?
Yes, wait, I talk to myself like this!
If somebody would ask what I would like to change about myself my reply would be: "treat myself like I were my 5 year old, stop making demands to be perfect and to everything perfectly otherwise I wouldn't be good enough!"
If we feel like we are for some reason not doing our best and judge us for it, it is a sure direction to be feeling worse!
Example 1. I make a mistake at work and I judge myself harshly for it, this is what I would say to myself: "Margrét, what were you thinking? How could you do this, you silly you, you should be ashamed"!
Example 2. I make a mistake at work and I show myself some understanding and mercy, this is what I would say: "well.. it wasn't that horrible, everybody can make mistakes, I will learn from it and do it better next time"!
How often do you do example one and how often example 2? If we had been talking to our child, which example is more plausible to lead to success. We learn when we make mistakes!
If we don't allow ourselves to make "mistakes" we live in constant fear. Fear that someone might figure out that we aren't enough...something! Let's recognise our "mistakes" and let's try to learn from them. The more "mistakes" we make, the faster and more we will learn.
When we kick ourselves when we are down it is so much harder to stand up. Why would we willingly by doing that? Do we deserve that?
Nobody judges us as harshly as ourselves.
But we know we are always doing the best we can!
Life is full of adventures, let's participate in it open mindedly to ourselves and others. If we succeed in being gentle to ourselves it will be a lot easier to be gentle and tolerant to others.
Our lives are full of habits and we can break away from those and familiarise with new ones, What if we change the first sentences and use these instead?
I am enough as I am now...
I am fantastic...
I deserve the best...
I do not need to prove myself to anyone but myself...
I always do my best...
Create your own happiness!
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Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present. -Jim Rohn
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